Think Fast Talk Smart: Communication Techniques

Why being true to yourself enables you to show up better for others.

From the way you communicate, to the way you build your life and career, Graham Weaver, MBA ’99, says it’s about “giving yourself permission to fully be yourself. You can never go wrong when you’re saying your truth.”

Weaver is a lecturer in management, a GSB alum, and the founder and a partner of Alpine Investors. He stresses the importance of direct communication, highlighting how avoiding it can lead to wasted time, energy, and even financial losses. Reflecting on his own experiences in private equity, Weaver admits to struggling with being conflict-averse and not speaking his truth directly, which resulted in getting into bad deals and big losses for his company. “People think that by being indirect, they’re being kind, but all they're doing is creating confusion,” he says. “Clarity is compassionate. Even if it's not what they want to hear, the more direct and clear you can be, the more compassionate that is for the other person.”

In this Rethinks episode of Think Fast, Talk Smart, Weaver and host Matt Abrahams explore how being true to oneself not only fosters personal fulfillment but also enables us to show up better for others. Authenticity and self-belief lay the foundation for effective communication, leadership, and ultimately, success.
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Graham Weaver

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Chapters:

(00:00) - Introduction

(04:25) - Direct Communication & Limiting Beliefs

(07:35) - The Internal Game

(08:40) - An Asymmetrical Life

(13:52) - Taylor Swift & Grit

(16:46) - Pursuing Enlightenment

(21:00) - The Final Three Questions

(27:57) - Conclusion

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How to turn down the chatter of negative self-talk.

If you want to have better conversations with others, Ethan Kross says you first have to quiet down the chatter in your own head.
A professor, researcher, and author, Kross defines chatter as a “negative thought loop” that hijacks our attention and undermines our ability to perform. “We have a limited capacity to focus our attention,” he says. “Attentional resources are a limited commodity, and chatter acts like a sponge that consumes that capacity. It leaves very little leftover that allows us to do the things that we want or need to do.” 
In his work researching, teaching, and writing about emotional regulation and the conscious mind, Kross has explored how to manage the negative self-talk that sabotages our concentration. “Here's the good news,” he says. “You can get out of it. Managing your chatter [is] a lot like becoming physically fit” — and he’s developed tools and frameworks for building the muscles to turn down the noise.
In this episode of Think Fast, Talk Smart, Kross joins host Matt Abrahams to share methods for quieting chatter and reclaiming precious mental resources. From distanced self-talk to mental time travel, his tools offer a way to tune out the static and tune into clarity and connection.
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Episode Reference Links:
Ethan Kross
Ethan’s Books: Chatter / Shift
Ep.179 Finding Positive in Negative Emotions: Communication, Happiness & Wellbeing 

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Chapters:

(00:00) - Introduction

(02:56) - Defining Chatter

(05:26) - Breaking the Loop

(10:23) - Technology & Emotional Sharing

(13:49) - Why “Get Over It” Fails

(19:09) - Emotions as Data

(21:40) - The Final Three Questions

(25:30) - Conclusion

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How to turn complexity into connection through clear communication.

Communication in high-stakes moments isn’t about saying more — it’s about connecting better. For Jonathan Berek and Phil Polakoff, the most effective communicators don’t rely on jargon or performance. They rely on empathy, listening, and stories that resonate.
Both longtime Stanford Medicine leaders, Berek and Polakoff have spent their careers translating complex, emotional, and often urgent health issues for patients, colleagues, and the public. And they’ve learned that the message only lands when it’s delivered at the right level, with the right intention. “Know your audience,” Berek says, describing the importance of “leveling” — communicating in language that meets people where they are, without talking down or over their heads.
For both Berek and Polakoff, listening is the foundation. “The two most important skills in communication are empathy and listening,” Berek explains — not as soft skills, but as the core mechanics of trust. Polakoff agrees, pushing for directness and clarity: “I like a yes or a no. I don’t like ambivalence or ambiguity.” And when it comes to being memorable, he’s relentless about simplicity: “Think bold, start small.”
In this episode of Think Fast, Talk Smart, Berek and Polakoff join host Matt Abrahams to examine what great communicators actually do: prepare deeply, speak concisely, listen with intention, and use storytelling to bring others along. Because as Berek puts it, “People feel the emotion when they see a story,” and emotion — paired with clarity — is what turns information into impact.
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Phil Polakoff
Jonathan Berek

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Chapters:

(00:00) - Introduction

(03:19) - Raising Awareness For Women’s Cancer

(04:16) - Redefining Health Beyond Disease

(05:38) - Why Storytelling is Essential

(07:38) - What Makes a Story Memorable

(09:15) - Advice for Better Communication

(10:16) - Making Complex Ideas Accessible

(11:04) - Speaking at Your Audience’s Level

(12:27) - Listening & Empathy

(13:09) - Improving Communication with Improv

(14:38) - Communication for Collective Change

(17:17) - Mentorship & The Big Picture

(18:28) - The Final Three Questions

(22:15) - Conclusion

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Why curiosity is the best way to start a conversation.

No matter how wide political, cultural, and generational divides seem to grow, Fareed Zakaria is convinced: communication has the power to connect.
Zakaria is the host of CNN's Fareed Zakaria GPS, a Washington Post columnist, and author of Age of Revolutions, a book about the seismic societal shifts that define modern history. In his decades of translating complex geopolitical issues for broad audiences, he’s found the key to navigating change and conflict. “The most important thing is being genuinely curious,” he says, “genuinely believing that everybody has a story to tell. Everybody has something to teach you. Everybody has a lesson you can learn.”
In this episode of Think Fast, Talk Smart, Zakaria and host Matt Abrahams explore how curiosity opens the door to conversation. Whether we’re communicating across ideological divides or bridging gaps between our past, present, and future, Zakaria shows why maintaining connection starts with a willingness to learn.
Episode Reference Links:
Fareed Zakaria
Fareed’s Book: Age of Revolutions
Ep.161 Do Your Homework: Know What to Say by Knowing Who You're Talking To 

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Chapters:

(00:00) - Introduction

(02:47) - The “Age of Revolutions”

(04:53) - Do Facts Still Matter?

(06:24) - How To Persuade

(08:28) - On-Camera Communication

(10:56) - Making Radical Ideas Mainstream

(12:25) - When To Change Your Mind

(13:52) - Helping Adolescents Communicate

(19:31) - The Final Three Questions

(23:18) - Conclusion

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Why clarity and authenticity matter more than ever in modern communication.

Clear communication in the age of likes, LLMs, and constant noise isn’t about talking more. For Nick Thompson, it’s about being unmistakably clear and unmistakably yourself.
Thompson, CEO of The Atlantic and former editor-in-chief of Wired, has spent his career shaping stories that hold attention. “Clear beats clever,” he says, stressing that authenticity and specificity are what make messages land. “If you can get across what you're really trying to say— if you can say it honestly, specifically, and ideally briefly—that's good. And if you can say it in a way that feels like you, that's great.”
Beyond journalism, Thompson is an elite marathon runner, ranking among the top competitive runners in the world, an identity that, for him, isn’t separate from writing or leadership but deeply connected to it. “[Running] has taught me all kinds of habits of mind and discipline and pacing,” he says, “There are all kinds of lessons from the sport that apply to my business life.”
In this episode of Think Fast, Talk Smart, Thompson joins host Matt Abrahams to share how great communicators craft “sticky” ideas without chasing soundbites. From practical editorial tests to the importance of editing, structure, and authenticity, Thompson offers a roadmap for communication that doesn’t just get noticed but lasts.
Episode Reference Links:
Nick Thompson
Nick’s Book: The Running Ground
Ep.183 Rethinks: How Anxiety Can Fuel Better Communication 

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Chapters:

(00:00) - Introduction

(04:24) - Good Communication in the Modern Day

(05:06) - Finding Your Authentic Voice

(06:13) - The Power of Editing

(07:57) - Reading Your Writing Out Loud

(09:50) - How to Create “Sticky” Content

(11:12) - AI’s Role in Journalism & Communication

(13:15) - Using AI in Daily Life

(13:59) - Running As Meditation

(17:38) - What Running Teaches About Simplicity

(19:13) - The Final Three Questions

(23:31) - Conclusion

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