Financial Feminist

What if your thirties were about impressing yourself instead of others? In this episode, Tori gets real about the shift in priorities that comes with entering a new decade, reflecting on everything from financial independence and self-care to setting boundaries. She encourages listeners to stop apologizing for their choices and start building a life that aligns with their values. Whether you're navigating your twenties or already thinking ahead, this episode is packed with insights that will inspire you to take control of your finances and well-being with confidence and purpose.

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00:00 Welcome & Free Money Personality Quiz

01:00 Managing Money Differently in Your 30s

02:45 Stop Apologizing for Your Purchases

06:00 Prioritize New Financial Goals

07:00 Navigating Money With a Partner

08:00 Investing in Your Health

10:00 Why Health Spending Pays Off Long-Term

13:30 Adjusting Your Investment Strategy

14:30 Financial Independence & Living Off Investments

15:00 Setting Better Work-Life Boundaries

16:45 Why You Need a Will and Life Insurance

19:00 Business Planning & What's Coming Next

20:00 Final Thoughts & How Your Money Shifts by Decade
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What if the real reason you're not hitting your money goals has nothing to do with how hard you're working? In this millionaire mindset episode, I'm introducing you to the Lever Theory, the framework that completely changed the way I run my $7.5 million dollar business and manage my own finances. Ever felt like you're pushing a boulder up a hill and getting nowhere? Well this episode is going to reframe everything. We're talking about why hustle culture is lying to you, why you have to know your numbers before anything else works, and how to find the one single move that closes the gap between where you are and where you want to be. No grinding required.

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The #1 Mindset Holding You Back podcast episode: https://herfirst100k.com/financial-feminist-show-notes/142-the-1-mindset-holding-you-back-in-life/ 

00:00 Intro

00:47 Why working harder is almost never the answer

01:10 What Millionaire Mindset is about

03:19 Why hustle culture disproportionately traps women

04:07 The lie: more hours = more output = more worth

06:05 Grinding past a certain point is just expensive noise

08:45 You can't set goals if you don't know your numbers

10:05 The ostrich effect: putting your head in the sand

11:36 You cannot pull a lever you can't see

13:06 The Lever Theory explained

14:28 Finding the gap: a revenue example

15:43 The three questions to find your lever

18:35 Implementing the Lever Theory beyond business

20:49 Working smarter, not harder

22:09 Saving Sprint announcement

24:09 Why we resist finding the lever

26:14 The all-or-nothing mindset sabotaging your goals

27:10 Analysis paralysis and the fear of simplicity

29:21 How to find your lever (5 steps)

33:29 Your homework: find the lever this week
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Why do we stay in jobs, relationships, and financial patterns we know aren't working? Author and journalist Simone Stolzoff is back on the show to talk about his new book, How to Not Know — and the surprising answer has everything to do with our relationship with uncertainty. We're getting into the three certainty traps keeping you stuck, why more information is actually making your anxiety worse, the difference between one-way and two-way door decisions, and what it really takes to break the cycle when you can see the problem but can't seem to move. This is one of the most powerful conversations we've had on this show, and one you'll want to send to everyone you know.

Simone’s links:

How to Not Know: https://bookshop.org/a/90037/9781324089452

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00:00 Intro 

01:08 Why Uncertainty Feels Worse Than Bad News

03:14 Three Certainty Traps: Comfort, Hubris & Control

04:49 Why We Struggle to Admit We Were Wrong

05:36 Identity, Doubling Down & Changing Your Mind

10:23 Why Our Tolerance for Uncertainty Is Declining

14:28 More Information, More Anxiety

16:18 Escalating Commitment

16:52 Stop Loss Strategies & Rules-Based Decision Making

20:13 Outsourcing Your Willpower & Knowing Your "Enough"

28:08 Connie & Andrew's "Year of Living Dangerously"

30:21 How to Run Your Own Low-Stakes Life Experiment

35:16 One-Way Door vs. Two-Way Door Decisions

44:39 Ghost Ships: Making Peace with the Paths Not Taken

50:39 The Miscarriage, the Uncertainty & Finding Your Anchors

54:54 How to Not Know
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You might be the loneliest you've ever been — and have no idea why. One of my favorite guests and favorite humans, Liz Moody, is back on the show to talk about why loneliness isn't an exposure problem. It's not about being around more people. It's a discomfort problem. We're getting into why our frictionless, optimized lives are quietly killing our ability to connect, what it actually takes to build real friendships from scratch, why vulnerability is the shortcut nobody wants to take, and the one shift you can make this week that will move you toward deeper connection — no new plans required.

Liz’s links:

Website: https://www.lizmoody.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lizmoody/ 

Podcast: https://www.lizmoody.com/the-liz-moody-podcast/ 

Book: A Hundred Ways to Change Your Life: http://Bookshopbookshop.org/a/90037/9780063333710 

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00:00 Intro

00:13 Why We've Never Been More Connected — Yet More Alone

02:34 The "Creation Era" of Friendship & Why Discomfort Is the Price of Connection

03:23 The Cozy Era vs. The Creation Era of Friendship

06:17 Loneliness Is a Discomfort Problem, Not an Exposure Problem

11:37 Misdiagnosing Loneliness — What You're Actually Missing

13:05 The Harvard Study of Adult Development & the #1 Predictor of a Long Life

14:59 Face-Down Phone Theory & What Your Phone Is Costing Your Relationships

11:27 Match Theory: Stop Impressing, Start Finding Your People

17:32 The 50-Hour Rule: How Long It Really Takes to Make a Friend

21:17 From Transaction to Connection — Getting Past Tit for Tat

21:13 Human Beings vs. Human Doings: Productivity Culture & Friendship

38:21 Shared Experiences, Novelty & Building Deeper Bonds

38:16 "Abouts" — The Secret Ingredient to Lasting Friendships

50:24 Healthy Solitude vs. Loneliness (and Why Most of Us Never Actually Rest)

58:20 The One Shift to Make This Week If You Feel Lonely
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What if every bill you're already paying could get you closer to a free flight?

Today I'm talking to Shakeemah "Keem" Smith — founder of Bills to Boarding Passes, solo travel educator, and the woman her family literally nicknamed The Passport Abuser — to talk about how she's traveled to nearly 100 countries without paying out of pocket for a single flight in three years. And no, you don't need a high-limit credit card or a six-figure salary to do this.

Keem breaks down her Bills to Boarding Passes method, the airline partnerships most people have never heard of, why solo travel might be the most powerful thing you do for yourself this year, and the exact first steps to take this week, no matter your income, your debt situation, or your starting point. You’re gonna want to share this episode with a friend!

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00:00 Intro

01:36 Your Bills Are Your Boarding Passes

04:07 Airline Miles vs. Credit Card Points: What's the Difference?

07:05 How Airlines Make Money When You're Not Flying 

09:32 Earning Miles on Your Utility Bills (NRG Partnership)

11:03 How Keem Got to Her First 20 Countries for Under $100 

13:55 How to Travel for Free Without a Credit Card 

16:22 What Started Solo Travel: A Friendship Betrayal in Amsterdam

19:10 Learning to Enjoy Your Own Company at 30

21:29 Traveling as a Black Woman — Safety, Research & Real Talk

28:24 Actionable Steps for the Woman Who Thinks She Can't Afford to Travel

31:44 Japan for $6 — Three Times (and Other Receipt-Worthy Receipts)

35:19 Treating Retailers Like You Treat Men: The 2-Out-of-3 Rule

38:44 Country That Surprised Me Most: Kuwait

39:31 The One Thing I Always Pack: A Carbon Monoxide Detector

41:27 Worst Travel Disaster: Saint Kitts Airport Scam

44:45 Best Flight Deal: $5 Flights as a Lifestyle

45:42 Most Underrated Solo Destination: Antigua and Barbuda

47:20 Final Message to the Woman Who Thinks Travel Isn't for Her
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