Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast

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There's a rule most of us signed before we could read it. It decides whether we're worth anything, and it tends to set the same terms for everyone who carries an ADHD brain: you're valuable if you perform, if you keep every plate spinning, if you never let anyone down. Live under that contract long enough and it stops feeling like a belief and starts feeling like a fact — written, as the metaphor goes this week, in permanent ink.
Where did the rule come from? Often from the earliest lessons — the pulled-out-of-class, extra-time, here-are-your-accommodations lessons that were meant to level the field but landed as proof you were different. The gap they leave behind doesn't shrink with age. There's research suggesting it widens. The assumption that everyone else has this figured out turns out to be the lie that keeps the rule in place.
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(00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast

(01:17) - Join the Patreon!

(03:13) - Rewriting Rules

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Ready to turn your planning chaos into clarity? Take a look at Guided Planning Sessions™ (GPS)—from getting started to mastering your weekly routines. Whether you’re just picking your tools or refining a system that finally sticks, GPS gives you the structure, support, and community you need to make it happen. Explore more and join today at TakeControlADHD.com/GPS.

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GPS is Now Open! Visit https://takecontroladhd.com/gps to learn more and take control of your planning today!
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"Good enough" is a phrase that can land like permission or like an accusation — and for ADHD brains that have spent a lifetime being told we're not trying hard enough, both feelings often arrive at once.
This week, we're untangling that knot. Why does a phrase meant to release us so often feel like settling? Why does the ADHD brain hear "good enough" and translate it into "not enough"? And what would it actually take to reclaim the phrase as our own?
This is really all about intention — the difference between walking away from something because you've been defeated by it, and walking away because you've made a choice. One leaves you smaller. The other builds something. We talk about the standards we measure ourselves against (almost always invented), the freeze that comes when nothing feels possible, and the small, almost invisible acts that count as progress even when they don't feel like it.
By the end, we land somewhere unexpectedly tender: a reminder that the way we build trust with ourselves isn't by finishing things perfectly. It's by finishing them at all.
There's a free download this week — five questions to help you decide what's good enough — linked below.
Links & Notes
Download the What Does It Mean to be Good Enough? Worksheet!
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(00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast

(01:25) - Patreon.com/theadhdpodcast

(02:56) - What does it mean to be good enough?

(21:51) - How do you know it's good enough?

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Ready to turn your planning chaos into clarity? Take a look at Guided Planning Sessions™ (GPS)—from getting started to mastering your weekly routines. Whether you’re just picking your tools or refining a system that finally sticks, GPS gives you the structure, support, and community you need to make it happen. Explore more and join today at TakeControlADHD.com/GPS.

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GPS is Now Open! Visit https://takecontroladhd.com/gps to learn more and take control of your planning today!
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There's a kind of waiting most ADHDers know well — waiting for someone, somewhere, to say it's okay. Okay to rest. Okay to stop masking. Okay to take the accommodation. Okay to want what you want without justifying it.
In this conversation, we get into the permission slips we keep waiting for, often from authority figures who may not even exist anymore. We talk about why ADHDers wait — the research-backed link between years of childhood correction and adult reliance on external validation — and what that has to do with decision paralysis, rejection sensitivity, masking, and the exhaustion of performing a version of yourself that you didn't sign up for.
Plus the swan, self-determination theory, and a small concrete first step you can try this week.
Links & Notes
Download The ADHD Permission Slip!
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(00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast

(01:26) - Patreon.com/TheADHDPodcast

(02:36) - Your Permission Slips

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Ready to turn your planning chaos into clarity? Take a look at Guided Planning Sessions™ (GPS)—from getting started to mastering your weekly routines. Whether you’re just picking your tools or refining a system that finally sticks, GPS gives you the structure, support, and community you need to make it happen. Explore more and join today at TakeControlADHD.com/GPS.

★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

GPS is Now Open! Visit https://takecontroladhd.com/gps to learn more and take control of your planning today!
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We've all been there: someone offers a perfectly reasonable suggestion, and instead of taking it in, you bristle. You're tired. You're cranky. The last thing you want is advice. This week, Pete and Nikki tackle what happens when ADHD meets fatigue — and why the strategies that usually work suddenly don't.
This isn't laziness. It isn't a character flaw. It's what happens when executive functions are already running on a deficit and you pile fatigue on top. Pete brings the research, including a study showing 62% of adults with ADHD meet the criteria for chronic fatigue syndrome — a reminder that "everybody gets tired" is true, but ADHD brains get tired in a different and vastly more significant way.
The conversation moves from the science to the lived experience: the guilt loop that keeps you from resting, the way fatigue distorts reality until small tasks feel like moral referendums, and the rewiring required to treat recovery as part of the work — not a reward you have to earn.
Plus: why "I don't wanna" might be a capacity check in disguise, the four categories of recovery that actually work (hint: sleep is only one of them), and Nikki's insight that the recovery muscle is built through trial and error, not advance planning.

LINKS & RESOURCES
Past episode referenced: The Opportunity Cost
Past episode referenced: Capacity conversation with Brooke Schnittman
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(00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast

(03:10) - The Tired Problem

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Ready to turn your planning chaos into clarity? Take a look at Guided Planning Sessions™ (GPS)—from getting started to mastering your weekly routines. Whether you’re just picking your tools or refining a system that finally sticks, GPS gives you the structure, support, and community you need to make it happen. Explore more and join today at TakeControlADHD.com/GPS.

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GPS is Now Open! Visit https://takecontroladhd.com/gps to learn more and take control of your planning today!
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We've all said it. "I'll deal with it later." And somehow, later never comes. The thing just sits there — not in your calendar, but in your head. It pings you in the shower. It shows up right before you fall asleep. That's an energy leak.
This week, Ari Tuckman returns for his sixth appearance to unpack what's actually happening when we tell ourselves "later." What is the ADHD brain doing in that moment? Are we making a real decision, or just kicking the can? And how do we tell the difference?
We dig into:
The two flavors of procrastination — not feeling the future vs. avoiding the discomfort
Why "later" needs a "when," and what specificity actually changes
The difference between a task that needs doing and a decision that needs making
How to close an open loop that's been open way too long
Going toward positives vs. avoiding negatives, and why one of those is more sustainable
Time estimation, and why some things aren't knowable until you start
Ari's new book, the ADHD Productivity Manual
Guest Spotlight
Ari Tuckman, PsyD is a psychologist, author, and international presenter specializing in ADHD. He's given more than 600 presentations and podcast interviews across America and nine other countries, and is the author of four books: ADHD After Dark, Understand Your Brain, Get More Done, More Attention, Less Deficit, and Integrative Treatment for Adult ADHD. He chairs the CHADD Conference Committee. This is his sixth appearance on the show.
Links & Notes
Ari's website: https://drarituckman.com
Ari on Instagram: @AriTuckmanPsyD
Books by Ari Tuckman:ADHD After Dark
Understand Your Brain, Get More Done
More Attention, Less Deficit
Integrative Treatment for Adult ADHD
ADHD Productivity Manual

(00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast

(01:13) - Join us over on Patreon!

(02:13) - Introducing Ari Tuckman

(03:06) - "I'll do it later..."

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Ready to turn your planning chaos into clarity? Take a look at Guided Planning Sessions™ (GPS)—from getting started to mastering your weekly routines. Whether you’re just picking your tools or refining a system that finally sticks, GPS gives you the structure, support, and community you need to make it happen. Explore more and join today at TakeControlADHD.com/GPS.

★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★