Why is it difficult to find one’s self? Many of us often struggle with this, feeling unsure about who we truly are or feeling a bit lost in the process. Our lives keep changing – so how do we really find our true selves?  Valeria sits down with existential psychotherapist, Sara Kuburic. They talk about Sara's upcoming book, "It's On Me," and delve into what existential therapy is all about. They also discuss how we can let go of our old selves, how we end up losing our identity, and how we can find ourselves even when life gets messy and complicated. Join us for this insightful conversation that'll not only get you thinking but also provide valuable insights into navigating the complexities of life and self-discovery. It’s On Me by Sara Kuburic: https://www.amazon.com/Its-Me-Accept-Truths-Discover/dp/B0BZZV3G1L  You can find Sara on:  https://www.instagram.com/millennial.therapist/?hl=en https://twitter.com/SaraKuburic https://www.facebook.com/sarakuburic/ https://www.tiktok.com/@sarakuburic Valeria is on: https://www.instagram.com/valerialipovetsky/  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWkDFq1pO7YNzifE3A4UsMA  https://www.tiktok.com/@valeria.lipovetsky  Not Alone Podcast What We Talked About: 00:00 Intro 00:05 What is existential therapy? 01:53 The concept of the self 05:30 What causes self-loss? 08:06 How self-loss manifests itself? 11:32 Signs that you probably don’t know who you are 13:09 Letting go of the older version of you 17:08 Don’t let habits become cages 19:33 What is authenticity? 21:51 “Our ultimate essence is always ahead of us…” 25:19 What are the things that won’t change? 27:20 Finding meaning in life 30:44 How to recognize meaning 32:08 What other things cause self-loss? 35:42 Transition from self-awareness to self-attunement 37:18 Finding beauty in sadness 42:53 The prerequisites to having a sense of self 46:33 “We cannot expect attention without attendance…” 49:16 Setting boundaries 54:01 Connection between the body and knowing ourselves 58:34 Building a relationship with your body 1:00:36 Life is messy and complicated 1:02:30 The armchair exercise

In life's evolving journey, there often comes a moment when the relentless pursuit of happiness and external validation begins to feel unfulfilling. It’s a point we hit where all that chasing after happiness and the need for others' approval just doesn't satisfy us like it used to. That's when the quest for meaning steps into the spotlight. It's like looking inward and asking, 'What really matters to me?' This shift is about digging deep, finding what you're passionate about and what aligns with your values. It might not be as flashy as chasing happiness, but it's like discovering a hidden treasure – a sense of fulfillment that stays with you for the long haul. Of course, the occasional like and comment on social media feels good, but now they're just one part of a bigger, more meaningful picture Follow Valeria on: https://www.instagram.com/valerialipovetsky/  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWkDFq1pO7YNzifE3A4UsMA  https://www.tiktok.com/@valeria.lipovetsky  Not Alone Podcast What We Talked About: 00:00 Intro 00:20 Getting comfortable with the unknown 04:40 Motherhood phases and marriage anniversary 07:50 Do you question yourself often? 10:46 Breaking free from your limiting beliefs 14:11 Logical versus intuitive decision making 15:36 Starting your emotional journey at a young age 19:14 How do you rewire your brain? 23:17 Don’t allow yourself to settle 26:39 The survivor mentality 32:21 What’s your approach to happiness? 35:32 Looking at your life in a different lens

How do you manage loss? Or navigate endings? Can we avoid falling into despair when confronted with grief? In this episode, Valeria explores her own responses to difficult emotions. She talks with fashion designer and podcast host Whitney Port and trauma psychotherapist Hilary Jacobs Hendel about coping with endings. Join the conversation to learn more about the complex ways our minds and our bodies respond to change, loss, and grief.  You can find Whitney Port on Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, and TikTok, and Hilary Jacobs Hendel on Instagram, YouTube, and Twitter.  This Not Alone episode is sponsored by Crown Affair. Get 20% off you Crown Affair order when you enter code VALERIA20 at checkout. That’s crownaffair.com using the code VALERIA20 to get 20% off your entire order! Not Alone is produced in partnership with FRQNCY Media. Producer: Lizzie Stewart  Associate Producer: Emily Krumberger Supervising Producer: Enna Garkusha  Executive Producer: Michelle Khouri Script written by: William Cagle Script editors: Isabel Moncloa Daly and Jessica Olivier Mixer and sound designer: Claire Bidigare-Curtis Session engineering: DonTaé Hodge.  Follow Valeria on Instagram, Youtube, and TikTok.

Did you feel like you lost a part of yourself when you became a parent? Valeria knows exactly how you feel. In this episode, she welcomes actress and The Honest Company founder Jessica Alba to have a conversation about motherhood, the compromises we make for our children, and how to prioritize yourself while still remaining present as a parent. Valeria shares her stories of feeling guilty when she couldn’t be as accessible to her son as he wanted and learning not to over identify with the role of mother. She listens to Jessica’s take on how to tune into yourself and why she finally felt a sense of home after having kids.   You can find Jessica Alba on Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, and TikTok. This Not Alone episode is sponsored by Starface. Check them out online at Starface.World in the US, UK and Canada, and save 15% on your next order with Build Your Own Bundle. Just add two or more products to your cart and your 15% discount will apply automatically at checkout. Not Alone is produced in partnership with FRQNCY Media. Producer: Lizzie Stewart  Associate Producer: Emily Krumberger Supervising Producer: Enna Garkusha  Executive Producer: Michelle Khouri Script written by: Ellie Katz Script editors: Isabel Moncloa Daly and Jessica Olivier Mixer and sound designer: Claire Bidigare-Curtis Session engineering: DonTaé Hodge.  Follow Valeria on Instagram, Youtube, and TikTok.

Have you ever failed at something that you really wanted to work out? Does the fear of falling short ever hold you back? What if you do have success but it doesn't make you feel satisfied? In this episode Valeria opens up about her own entrepreneurial disappointments, learning through mistakes, and her relationship to success. She hears from model and Saltair co-founder Iskra Lawrence and YouTube star and filmmaker Elle Mills about the importance of failure and trusting your value throughout career ups and downs. Tune in to hear their advice about redefining achievement, developing healthy boundaries with public attention, and moving forward. Find Iskra Lawrence on Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, and TikTok and find Elle Mills on Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, and TikTok. This Not Alone episode is sponsored by Sakara. Get 25% off your first order of 100% plant-based, organic ready-to-go meals when you go to Sakara.com/VALERIA or enter code VALERIA at checkout. Sakara. Feed Your Spirit. Not Alone is produced in partnership with FRQNCY Media. Producer: Lizzie Stewart  Associate Producer: Emily Krumberger Supervising Producer: Enna Garkusha  Executive Producer: Michelle Khouri Script written by: Isabel Moncloa Daly   Script editors: Isabel Moncloa Daly and Jessica Olivier Mixer and sound designer: Claire Bidigare-Curtis Session engineering: DonTaé Hodge.  Follow Valeria on Instagram, Youtube, and TikTok.