Emotional Sobriety: The Next Step in Recovery

Thom’s Nutshell:

“Recipe for peace of mind:

KNOW what you believe.

KNOW what is important.

KNOW what is within your control.

LIVE congruently with what you believe.”

Thom and Patrick discuss “the upside of addiction” (as a means of climbing out of it), emotional sobriety and relationship struggles, using during therapy, and approaching addiction as a binary choice between life and death.

Our music is provided by the great southern artist Jefferson Ross. Learn more about Jefferson at jeffersonross.com

Visit our website:

www.emotionalsobriety.info

Follow us on social media:

Instagram: thomrutledge2

Joe C. Twitter: @Rebellion_Dogs

Learn more about Joe C., Secular AA and Rebellion Dogs here:

https://rebelliondogspublishing.com 

 

Friendly Circle Berlin workshops: https://friendlycircleberlin.org/events

 

Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/

 

Join Allen & Thom at our Thursday night, 7pm PST Zoom meeting on Emotional Sobriety and the Steps (login information below): 

https://zoom.us/j/330149513

Password: 375986

 

For our ongoing workshop video series on Emotional Sobriety and the 12 Steps, visit our YouTube channel here:

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHEM2-kqLkfp3I4c0jy-X-g

 

Also, please join our “Emotional Sobriety and Recovery” FB Group at the following link:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/120450976662519

We’d love to stay in touch in between meetings.

 

We appreciate feedback! Contact Patrick, our producer, at [email protected] for any questions or comments.

Chapters

(00:00:00) - Emotional Sobriety: Don't Get Married
(00:03:40) - A Simple Recipe for More Happiness in Your Relationship
(00:08:50) - The Importance of the Recovery Decision
(00:12:34) - Patrick on Avoiding Problems
(00:16:52) - Joe's Reflections on Alcoholism
(00:24:02) - On the Motivation of Recovery People

Thom’s Nutshell:

Step 16: Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of someone else. I can’t say I wasn’t warned. They told me to stop at 12.

“Taking others’ inventory” gets to the heart of our functioning. Allen brings this back to Piaget’s studies of pre-operational stages of development. Our emotional development influences our consciousness, and the more immaturity we have, the more we look at the world as reflections of ourselves. Rather than trying to manipulate these people and situations, in emotional sobriety we can try to meet them with empathy to have the best experience we can. The outcome of “taking inventory” all depends on motive.

Our music is provided by the great southern artist Jefferson Ross. Learn more about Jefferson at jeffersonross.com

Visit our website:

www.emotionalsobriety.info

Follow us on social media:

Instagram: thomrutledge2

Joe C. Twitter: @Rebellion_Dogs

Learn more about Joe C., Secular AA and Rebellion Dogs here:

https://rebelliondogspublishing.com 

 

Friendly Circle Berlin workshops: https://friendlycircleberlin.org/events

 

Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/

 

Join Allen & Thom at our Thursday night, 7pm PST Zoom meeting on Emotional Sobriety and the Steps (login information below): 

https://zoom.us/j/330149513

Password: 375986

 

For our ongoing workshop video series on Emotional Sobriety and the 12 Steps, visit our YouTube channel here:

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHEM2-kqLkfp3I4c0jy-X-g

 

Also, please join our “Emotional Sobriety and Recovery” FB Group at the following link:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/120450976662519

We’d love to stay in touch in between meetings.

 

We appreciate feedback! Contact Patrick, our producer, at [email protected] for any questions or comments.

Chapters

(00:00:00) - Emotional Sobriety
(00:01:15) - Step 16: Taking Other People's Inventory
(00:06:47) - How to Manipulate the World
(00:11:12) - How to Stop Being a Manipulator
(00:16:25) - Tom Brokaw on Therapy
(00:20:38) - The Self in Recovery
(00:23:08) - Intro to Self-Realization
(00:25:52) - Tom Clancy on His Meditations

Thom’s Nutshell:

"Live this moment as if you chose it.

Might as well. And maybe you did."

Give yourself permission to doubt. Give yourself permission to disagree. Give yourself permission to decide. Add more self!

Reflecting on the emotional sobriety of Viktor Frankl and Christopher Reeve, and having the courage to credit your own point of view. In emotional sobriety we find the “positive opportunism” of paying attention to what Is, instead of what Isn’t.

Our music is provided by the great southern artist Jefferson Ross. Learn more about Jefferson at jeffersonross.com

Visit our website:

www.emotionalsobriety.info

Follow us on social media:

Instagram: thomrutledge2

Joe C. Twitter: @Rebellion_Dogs

Learn more about Joe C., Secular AA and Rebellion Dogs here:

https://rebelliondogspublishing.com 

 

Friendly Circle Berlin workshops: https://friendlycircleberlin.org/events

 

Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/

 

Join Allen & Thom at our Thursday night, 7pm PST Zoom meeting on Emotional Sobriety and the Steps (login information below): 

https://zoom.us/j/330149513

Password: 375986

 

For our ongoing workshop video series on Emotional Sobriety and the 12 Steps, visit our YouTube channel here:

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHEM2-kqLkfp3I4c0jy-X-g

 

Also, please join our “Emotional Sobriety and Recovery” FB Group at the following link:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/120450976662519

We’d love to stay in touch in between meetings.

 

We appreciate feedback! Contact Patrick, our producer, at [email protected] for any questions or comments.

Chapters

(00:00:07) - Couple Therapy: The Next Step
(00:02:29) - Live This Moment as If You Had a Choice
(00:08:27) - What is sobriety?
(00:08:52) - Give Yourself Permission to Decide
(00:11:20) - Give Yourself Permission to Dissent
(00:15:48) - Alan on His First Alcoholics' Trip
(00:20:50) - Tom Hanks on Writing ''

Thom’s Nutshell:

“So much energy we spend wishing things to be different.There are always better uses of our time.”

Anxiety is consistent, persistent and disciplined. It wakes up first and works out every morning. To change we must be at least as disciplined. Joe C. talks about the many ways (often with the help of community) we medicate this condition. Allen digs into our relationship with Self, highlighting what we call the “intimate self,” in our navigation of anxiety. This all takes work!

Learn more about Joe C., Secular AA and Rebellion Dogs here:

https://rebelliondogspublishing.com 

Our music is provided by the great southern artist Jefferson Ross. Learn more about Jefferson at jeffersonross.com

Visit our website:

www.emotionalsobriety.info

Follow us on social media:

Instagram: thomrutledge2

Joe C. Twitter: @Rebellion_Dogs

 

Friendly Circle Berlin workshops: https://friendlycircleberlin.org/events

 

Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/

 

Join Allen & Thom at our Thursday night, 7pm PST Zoom meeting on Emotional Sobriety and the Steps (login information below): 

https://zoom.us/j/330149513

Password: 375986

 

For our ongoing workshop video series on Emotional Sobriety and the 12 Steps, visit our YouTube channel here:

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHEM2-kqLkfp3I4c0jy-X-g

 

Also, please join our “Emotional Sobriety and Recovery” FB Group at the following link:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/120450976662519

We’d love to stay in touch in between meetings.

 

We appreciate feedback! Contact Patrick, our producer, at [email protected] for any questions or comments.

Chapters

(00:00:07) - Emotional Sobriety
(00:03:13) - The Rock is the Thing
(00:08:02) - The Importance of Emotional Sobriety
(00:11:35) - Joe and What They Talk About in Recovery
(00:13:55) - The Fear of Being Nothing
(00:17:22) - Brandon on Codependence and the Intimate Self
(00:23:50) - Living on an Airplane
(00:28:10) - Having Reached a Spiritual Awakening

Thom’s Nutshell:

“When you want something, do you begin with a commitment to make it happen or a list of reasons that it probably won't?"

The mighty Carol Carter joins us again from the front of a different kind of recovery: triage from a flood which devastated her home. In our pursuit of emotional sobriety, integrity matters most. In adjusting our expectations to meet the moment, we can also “change our source of self-esteem”, to put us into congruency with our value system.

Learn more about Jenny, the trauma-informed Certified Professional Organizer helping Carol sort through her belongings in the flood’s aftermath: https://www.sweetgrassorganizing.com . Anyone with a trauma related connection to clutter can find a resource to help.

Our music is provided by the great southern artist Jefferson Ross. Learn more about Jefferson at jeffersonross.com

Visit our website:

www.emotionalsobriety.info

Follow us on social media:

Instagram: thomrutledge2

Joe C. Twitter: @Rebellion_Dogs

Learn more about Joe C., Secular AA and Rebellion Dogs here:

https://rebelliondogspublishing.com 

 

Friendly Circle Berlin workshops: https://friendlycircleberlin.org/events

 

Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/

 

Join Allen & Thom at our Thursday night, 7pm PST Zoom meeting on Emotional Sobriety and the Steps (login information below): 

https://zoom.us/j/330149513

Password: 375986

 

For our ongoing workshop video series on Emotional Sobriety and the 12 Steps, visit our YouTube channel here:

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHEM2-kqLkfp3I4c0jy-X-g

 

Also, please join our “Emotional Sobriety and Recovery” FB Group at the following link:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/120450976662519

We’d love to stay in touch in between meetings.

 

We appreciate feedback! Contact Patrick, our producer, at [email protected] for any questions or comments.

Chapters

(00:00:07) - Emotional Sobriety (Week 9)
(00:01:21) - Rainbow Dance
(00:02:16) - In the Elevator With Tom
(00:06:21) - Tom Everett on Writing While Recovering
(00:10:52) - I Got the Most Heartrending Call From My Friend Writing His
(00:12:41) - Tom, What Is Integrity?
(00:18:36) - How To Deal With a Hurt Person's Letter
(00:23:29) - In the Elevator With a Trauma Victim
(00:28:10) - Sometimes I Just Say What I Need to Say
(00:28:56) - Carol in the Woods With the Flood