Feminist Wellness

#383: Ever feel like the roles in your life - partner, parent, friend, employee - are colliding in ways that leave you exhausted and unsure of who you are supposed to be?

In this episode, I’m unpacking the subtle and pervasive experience of role confusion and how it can sneak into your life without you even realizing it. We explore how taking on others’ expectations, trying to manage everyone’s emotions, and overextending yourself creates a constant state of overwhelm. This isn’t just about being busy. It’s a misalignment between what your nervous system is actually capable of handling and the roles you feel you must perform.

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Tenderoni Hotline #36: A listener recently wrote in with a request: please stop calling your audience "my love/my beauty."

In this episode, I respond to that message and explore the deeper questions underneath it. Why do terms of endearment feel comforting to some people and uncomfortable to others? What happens when trauma teaches us that closeness, care, or tenderness are things to be wary of? And at what point does healing ask us to move beyond avoiding discomfort and begin building safety from within?

We dive into the relationship between nervous system regulation, emotional outsourcing, trauma recovery, and self-trust. I also share why calling people "my love" is not a branding decision or a marketing strategy, but an authentic expression of who I am, my culture, and the kind of world I want to help create.

If you've ever struggled to receive kindness, felt suspicious of tenderness, or found yourself looking outside yourself for safety, worth, or belonging, this episode offers a compassionate invitation to get curious about those patterns.

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#382: Do you find yourself stuck in the same emotional loops, beating yourself up when things don’t go as planned, or folding around boundaries because the perfectionist story in your mind says you should?

This week, we’re exploring how real self-compassion helps you stay with yourself in uncomfortable moments without spiraling, shutting down, or reverting to old habits. I also share how dead-end thinking keeps us looping in guilt, shame, and self-abandonment, and the real mechanics of staying present with your feelings, even when life doesn’t go the way you expect.

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#381: What happens when you stop people pleasing and the people around you are no longer pleased?

If the thought of setting boundaries, speaking up, or disappointing someone makes your nervous system panic, this episode will hit home. I explore why so many of us stay stuck in over-functioning, over-giving, and self-abandonment, and why growth often comes with discomfort from the people who benefited from the old version of you.

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Tenderoni Hotline #35: What if your relationship with food has far less to do with willpower and far more to do with your nervous system?

In this deeply thoughtful and delightfully nerdy conversation, I’m joined by Ali Shapiro, MS, CHHC, holistic nutritionist, creator of the Truce with Food method, host of the The Truce with Food podcast (formerly The Insatiable podcast), and 33-year cancer survivor, to explore the hidden connection between food, safety, belonging, emotional outsourcing, and self-worth.

Together we unpack why so many of us get stuck in cycles of restriction, perfectionism, binge eating, and trying to be “good” with food. We talk about the developmental psychology underneath emotional eating, the pressure to earn health through discipline and control, and why nervous system regulation matters so much when it comes to nourishment and healing.

Ali shares her compassionate, research-based approach that integrates functional nutrition, developmental psychology, and root-cause behavior change to help people build lasting change without shame or rigid wellness rules.

We also explore how diet culture and wellness culture often reinforce the same old patterns of self-abandonment, people-pleasing, and outsourcing authority, while disconnecting us from our own inner wisdom and body trust.

This episode is for anyone who feels exhausted by all-or-nothing thinking around food and wants a more grounded, compassionate, and sustainable way forward.

Learn more about Ali and her work at trucewithfood.com.

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