The Shepherd's Bench

"I didn't realise that what seemed like a compliment was actually wounding me."

For the first time on The Shepherd's Bench, Kofi Dartey and Randolph Adjei are joined by a guest: Prophet Sharlette Reid.
What follows is one of the most honest conversations we've had, about what it costs to be a woman carrying a prophetic calling, where women go when there's nobody to disciple them, and the words spoken over her that she mistook for affirmation.

In this episode:
A father who raised his daughter and his sons the same
"It was only when I came into church that I found the gap"
Why so many women condense themselves to the spaces already available
The same names, the same voices: why conferences recycle
The commission requires multiplying, not one name, one personality, one calling
Why male-on-male discipleship happens naturally, and what that leaves women with
The proximity problem: "I can't speak to him too long, it looks like more than it is"
More women in church than men. So where are the women leaders?
It has to transcend an event, building systems, not moments
"You need someone who can love you for who you are, not what you do"
A prayer for the woman who thought she had to change to be loved

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"Children don't spell love L-O-V-E. They spell love T-I-M-E."
The conversation was too hot to end. In Part II of Missing Millennials, Kofi Dartey and Randolph Adjei go deeper into why an entire generation went quiet, and what it cost them.

In this episode:
Four kinds of missing: absent, inactive, unequipped, or in position without preparation
"We're not here to say our fathers failed", the humility clause
Immigration, night shifts, and children raised by the streets
Prayer warrior on Monday, deacon on Sunday, stranger at home
Why millennials blame the church for stealing their parents
The millennial fathers overcompensating for what they never had
Children spell love T-I-M-E
"Don't get education, get a phone", influence without formation
Being successful and managing success are two different things
Will you still be doing this at 60? The longevity question nobody asks
A prayer for Gen Z

We love millennials. We love Gen Z. But this one was about the ones we can't find.
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Gen Z is hungry. They'll pay £5,000, fly across the world, do whatever it takes to be discipled. And they can't find anyone.

In Episode 11 of The Shepherd's Bench, Kofi Dartey and Randolph Adjei ask the question underneath the revival: if this generation is on fire, where is the generation meant to be raising them?

In this episode:
The Gen Z revival is real, but every big move cries for sturdy leadership
Movements led by 21-year-olds because the 35-year-olds are absent
"Is this 18-year-old leading because you couldn't find a 35-year-old?"
The boy who becomes the man of the house when his father isn't there
Michael Jackson, a stolen childhood, and what happens when you blow up too early
Why they're inheriting our problem, and how that becomes generational
They'll pay for mentorship and still can't find a mentor
Ezekiel 22:30, "I sought for a man to stand in the gap"
To the millennial who stepped off: God is calling you home
To the pastor: don't build your ministry at the cost of the people God gave you

You don't only give because you had it. Sometimes the biggest motivation is to give because you never did.
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Everybody cries to their pastor. Who does the pastor cry to?In Episode 10 of The Shepherd's Bench, Kofi Dartey and Randolph Adjei open Matthew 26 and read Gethsemane as a leadership text. Jesus, surrounded by twelve, creates distance in layers: nine stay here, three come further, and then he goes alone, and weeps where nobody can hear him.In this episode:
The loneliest room is the one with a queue outside it
Gethsemane: nine, three, and the little further
Why Jesus wouldn't let even Peter, James and John hear him break
"My soul is exceedingly sorrowful, even unto death" — anxiety, fear, and the humanity of Christ
How much are leaders actually allowed to share?
The line between honest vulnerability and bleeding on your people
When those closest to you fall asleep in your hardest hour
Every man of God has a story — and the compassion no prayer could build
A prayer for the leader who feels alone
You are not the first to go through it. You will not be the last. And you are not alone.
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At six years old, Kofi Dartey joined the counselling queue at his father's church. Five people ahead of him. Little suit, little tie, shiny shoes. When he finally got in, his dad asked what he was doing there. He said: this is the only place I can see you.
In Episode 9 of The Shepherd's Bench, Kofi and Randolph Adjei talk about the part of leadership nobody puts on the flyer, the humanity underneath the calling.

In this episode:
Are leaders born or made? "Even a leader who is born must be raised"
What leaders actually lose: it's easy to crucify sin, harder to crucify your freedom
The preacher's collar is a cuff, the bondservant's life isn't his own
Pastors' kids: when your dad is everybody's dad
The queue story, and the question it left in his father
"There were days we ate from the food bank", what people don't see behind the result
Entitlement, access, and the pastor who's expected to answer at any hour
Man of God: you are human, endowed with godly content
Where control and spiritual manipulation really come from: unaddressed insecurity
Don't be so spiritual you're no earthly good
Jesus took care of his family before the cross
The three cardinal rules: you are human, you will always be human, remember you're human
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The Shepherd's Bench is hosted by Kofi Dartey & Randolph Adjei and brought to you by KAC Studios.
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