244: Why You Get Triggered: Understanding the Psychology Behind BIG Parenting Reactions - Part 1
Ever lost it with your kid and wondered, what just happened? You’re not alone—and you’re not broken. In this episode, Lisa Smith dives deep into the three psychological triggers that hijack every parent: identity, social standing, and fear of loss. She breaks down why our reactions are often more about our own wounds than our child’s behavior—and how awareness can help us respond with calm, connection, and confidence. Whether you have a toddler, a strong-willed 8-year-old, or a moody teenager, this episode will give you actionable tools to pause, recognize your triggers, and parent from your higher brain instead of your fight-or-flight instincts.What You'll Learn:Why “bad behavior” isn’t the real problem—it’s what it triggers in your nervous system.How the identity trigger makes us feel like failures when our child’s actions contradict the parent we want to be.How the social standing trigger hijacks us with shame, comparison, and fear of judgment from others.How the loss trigger creates grief and fear about your child, your relationship, and your family vision.How to pause and recognize which trigger is activated in the moment, instead of reacting automatically.Practical next steps to start responding from your higher brain, not your reactive one, so your child hears your guidance instead of your frustration.
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243: Your Blueprint for a Peaceful School Year (Even with a Strong-Willed Kid)
In this episode, Lisa Smith shares an important parenting secret: September is your superpower. The habits you create now, in the first few weeks of school, will shape the entire year. Lisa explains how to avoid the exhausting patterns of morning meltdowns, homework battles, and after-school attitude by changing your approach to parenting from control to connection. Learn the simple, powerful tools that can turn chaos into calm and make this school year your best yet. Lisa also introduces a free 3-day challenge designed to help parents implement these changes immediately and transform their family dynamic for the school year.What You'll Learn:The Power of September: How the first few weeks of school set the tone for the whole year.The Shift from Control to Connection: Why treating your child’s behavior as communication instead of defiance can change everything.The Calm Anchor: How to be the anchor in your child’s emotional storm and why your calm matters more than you think.Creating Cooperation: Why you can’t force cooperation, but you can create the conditions where cooperation naturally follows.The Three-Step Blueprint: How to decode your child’s behavior, stay regulated, and lead with connection to eliminate power struggles.Join the Free 3-Day Challenge: How to get the tools and support you need to transform your mornings, homework time, and after-school moments.
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242: Are You ‘Doing Parenting Wrong’? The One Shift That Changes Everything
In this episode of Real World Peaceful Parenting, Lisa Smith discusses a simple yet powerful shift in parenting philosophy: moving from seeing parenting as a static role (a noun) to experiencing it as a dynamic relationship (a verb). Lisa shares a transformative moment that changed her perspective on parenting and how addressing your own triggers can drastically improve your connection with your kids. Through this episode, Lisa explores the importance of self-regulation, understanding your own emotional reactions, and how doing your inner work can foster a more connected, cooperative family dynamic. Parenting is a continuous, evolving process, and this shift could be the key to creating harmony in your home.What You'll Learn:Parenting as a Verb: Parenting is a relationship that evolves, not just a role to play.Self-Regulation Matters: Your emotional control helps your child regulate theirs.Recognize Your Triggers: Identifying your emotional reactions leads to more mindful parenting.Connection Over Control: Focus on connection, not power struggles, for cooperation.Heal Yourself: Addressing your own emotional wounds helps break negative cycles.Curiosity Creates Cooperation: Approach challenges with curiosity to foster cooperation, not conflict.
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241: Raising Kids Who Trust Their Bodies: The Power of Hunger Cues
In this episode, Lisa Smith and guest Jane Pilger dive into the profound connection between peaceful parenting and how we approach food with our kids. Lisa shares her personal journey of healing her own relationship with hunger and how she created a different experience for her son Malcolm. The conversation explores the importance of teaching children to trust their internal hunger and fullness cues, the impact of childhood food messaging, and how parents can break generational cycles of food struggles to foster healthier, more empowered relationships with food for their children.What You'll Learn:The Importance of Hunger Cues – Teaching kids to trust their bodies’ hunger and fullness cues is one of the greatest gifts a parent can give.Breaking the Generational Cycle – Lisa shares how she broke the cycle of unhealthy food patterns passed down from her childhood to create a healthy relationship with food for her son.Modeling Behavior – Kids learn what they see. Parents must model healthy food relationships and autonomy in decision-making.The Role of Internal Wisdom – When parents honor their child's internal wisdom about hunger, they build a foundation for self-regulation and emotional intelligence that goes beyond food.Practical Parenting Tools – Simple practices, like talking about the “voice in the tummy” and honoring the body’s cues, can help kids tune in to their own hunger and fullness cues.Food Freedom Starts Early – Parents can raise kids who feel empowered around food by not imposing restrictive food rules or using food as a control tool.
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240: How to Stay Calm When Your Kid Is Melting Down (And So Are You)
What happens when your child is melting down… and your nervous system decides to join them? In this powerful episode, Lisa shares real-life stories, neuroscience-backed insights, and go-to tools for calming yourself when your child’s behavior sets off alarm bells inside you. You’ll walk away with practical techniques to regulate in the moment, repair after a blow-up, and parent from a place of connection—even on the hardest days.What You'll Learn:Why your nervous system gets activated when your child melts down—and how to notice it soonerThe real reason your triggers aren’t flaws (and what to do with them instead)Four go-to regulation tools you can use in under 30 secondsHow to co-regulate without abandoning yourselfWhat to say to repair with your child after a dysregulation spiralHow to build a daily practice of self-awareness that leads to more peace at home
Are you tired of yelling at your kids? Do you sometimes feel like they don’t listen or respect you? Do you feel like the worst parent EVER? You’re not alone, there is hope!Join Lisa Smith -- Mom, Master Certified Parent Coach, Author and Speaker -- as she helps turn frustrated parents -- who regularly default to yelling, threatening and punishing -- into peaceful leaders within their households. As a former dominant parent, she has found the path to Peaceful Parenting and is dedicated to helping other parents find their way too! But be warned, this is not a “foo-foo” podcast that’s going to tell you to let your kids do whatever they want without any rules or limitations. Each week Lisa will share the exact methods and step-by-step strategies she used to transform from an angry, controlling mom who was constantly upset with her son and husband, into a calm, confident, and connected leader in her home.To connect with Lisa visit https://thepeacefulparent.com/
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